Showing posts with label Eddie Cantor. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Eddie Cantor. Show all posts

Friday, April 22, 2016

Talk.

Yet another excerpt from Eddie Cantor‘s autobiography The Way I See It, © 1959:

“Lack of communication is the big problem in marriages today… I’d much rather see a husband and wife argue, even heatedly, than see one of them go silent and walk out of the room.”


Note those quotes? This is the opinion of Dr. Robert G. Foster, who directs the marriage counseling training program at the Menninger Clinic. He said it first-- but I sure will second it! In fact, I’ll go even farther and offer a suggestion. Why can’t a couple plan for conversation exactly as they plan a picnic or a shopping trip to town? As for where’s the time to come from, they can take it from TV. Instead of blankly tuning in to something neither really wants to see, they might map an evening this way! “Nine to ten p.m. … Turn off set… talk.”


There are some rough spots in the book, some attitudes and opinions that  (although common at the time) would be considered coarse and backward today, but overall he was surprisingly progressive for someone who came to fame as a vaudeville performer in the 20s.

Monday, April 18, 2016

WANTED

Another excerpt from Eddie Cantor‘s autobiography The Way I See It, © 1959:

But the first world they (children) know is still the most important.  If his home is happy-- if a kid is cared about, not just for-- he can cope.  When I see the "Ten Most Wanted" lists-- the WANTED posters-- I always have this thought.  If we'd made them feel wanted earlier, they wouldn't be WANTED now.


I got this book for 50¢ at a charity sale, and truthfully had very small expectations for it, but it's quickly becoming one of my favorites.

Sunday, April 17, 2016

"On every issue."

Excerpted from Eddie Cantor's autobiography The Way I See It, written in 1959 when he was 67 years old:

To me, neutrality's a crime.  A sin against yourself and your society.  Know what "neuter" is?  Something sterile.  Impotent.  Incapable of making life.  You can't stay neutral and make much of any life.   A person has to pick his side and fight for it.  On every issue.  I think it's better to be in the wrong than never in the running.


That's the exact opposite of my experience.

The older I get, the more I think, "This is something I really don't need to trouble myself with.  I don't have to form an opinion or pick a side; I can just let this one go."